5 Absurd Myths About Consensual Non Monogamy

Shelbee On The Edge
10 min readSep 6, 2019

by Michelle Montoro

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My husband and I practice consensual non monogamy. We have been doing so for nearly three years. And for the first year and a half, we kept it pretty quiet.

But it started feeling very much like living in a closet, hiding away something that brings us so much joy. And quite frankly, it was exhausting.

Recently, we decided to share our story publicly.

However, when we began speaking openly about the nature of our relationship, we found ourselves very often met with dismay, confusion, and disapproval by the majority of people whom we know. Only a small percentage of our friends and family accept our non traditional lifestyle.

So I felt the need to offer an explanation in an attempt to clarify some of the misconceptions about non monogamy. Specifically about the way in which we practice non monogamy.

But let me begin with how this came about for us.

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We have a very happy and successful marriage (our 10th anniversary is in just a few months). We communicate better than any other couple we have ever met. We never argue. In fact, we…

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Michelle is a passionate scholar and a lover of words with a driving desire to help others in the pursuit of becoming the best possible versions of themselves.

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