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5 Reasons Sex is Better in Midlife
by Michelle Montoro
I am a sexual being. More sexual than some people I know and less than others. I go through cycles when my libido soars only to return again to a sexual slump where the act is the furthest thing from my mind.
For the most part, I suppose I have always had a decent level of sex drive. I started having sex at the age of 16 and in the past 30 years the longest I have gone without sex was the 9 months that my husband was deployed. And I definitely took measures to satisfy my needs during that time. In fact, I became quite adept at masturbation techniques that work quickly and efficiently in a pinch. It is a good skill to have.
Over the past 30 years of being a sexually active woman in a world where we are taught not to talk about sex, to feel shame about our “number”, and to embrace heterosexual monogamy as the only right way to have a relationship, I have discovered that with the wisdom of age and experience, sex is exponentially better in midlife. Here are five reasons why.
- We are able to leave our insecurities at the door.
