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9 Observations of a Polyamorous Couple
by Michelle Montoro
My husband and I have been living a polyamorous lifestyle for nearly three years, but we only just recently came out publicly with this information.
When we first began, there were only a few very close friends, and of course the other partners involved with us, who knew about our situation. We were hesitant to come out for a variety of reasons. The biggest reason being the fear of judgment.
As much as I would love to confidently state that the judgments of others do not affect me, I am just a regular human being. And we humans can suffer a variety of emotional reactions when we stand in the face of judgments. Like it or not, judgment and the fear of judgment are driving forces in much of what we do in life.
While the fear of judgment kept us from coming out, it certainly didn’t stop us from living the lifestyle that we found best suited for us and our needs. We were happy before embarking on this journey, but the happiness that has resulted in the aftermath is exponentially beyond our wildest expectations. We have no intention of changing any of it. Even though we face challenges along the way.
Newton’s Third Law of Physics states, “Every action is met with an opposite and equal reaction.” I am a firm believer that this law also applies to matters of life…
