by Michelle Montoro

I grew up with a very tumultuous relationship with religion. When I was very young, I was forced to attend my mother’s Lutheran church with her every Sunday. …

by Michelle Montoro

Oftentimes, we get stuck in our comfort zones. It’s a natural occurrence and it’s completely understandable to want to stay within the confines of what makes you comfortable. Because, well, it’s comfortable. And who wants to feel uncomfortable?

But I have learned that nothing great comes out…

by Michelle Montoro

I spent the first 40 years of my life being a “yes” girl.

Craving to be popular, to be liked, to become the friend my friends could rely on.


To the point that I exhausted myself. Overwhelmed myself. Literally made myself crazy.

But I had only…

by Michelle Montoro

Twenty-one years ago, I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder after a lifetime of struggling within the darkness of my own mind. It has been a disturbing history but one that I survived.

Through countless hours of therapy, endless cocktails of psychotropic medications, measureless pools of tears, and…

by Michelle Montoro

A few years ago, a friend of mine sent me this article, 11 Secrets of Irresistible People, with the message, “This reminds me of you…”

So, of course, I was intrigued. Wondering what in the world these 11 secrets were, I clicked the link and read on…

by Michelle Montoro

We as human beings have many ways of communicating with each other…words, body language, facial expressions, actions, the way we dress, the way we walk, our overall presentation of ourselves to the world.

So you see, there are many underlying reasons why I do the things I…

by Michelle Montoro

…It took me a lifetime to learn it…and I really want to share it…

…You have got to fake it until you make it.

For real.

I don’t believe that we are born with confidence.

How could we be? We come into this world shriveled up little…

by Michelle Montoro

I have been writing a lifestyle and fashion blog since 2015 and one thing that I have consistently struggled with is the idea that paying close attention to personal style is vain. …

by Michelle Montoro

Recently, I have been thinking an awful lot about the journey that brought me to this current place in my life. The friends who have come and gone. The friends who have remained or reconnected. The friends who are distant memories. The relationships that I had. The…

by Michelle Montoro

After 22 years of active duty service in the United States Army, my husband is retiring this summer and will no longer be a soldier. To honor him as well as all of the military families past, present, and future, I wanted to share some truths about…

Shelbee On The Edge

Michelle is a passionate scholar and a lover of words with a driving desire to help others in the pursuit of becoming the best possible versions of themselves.

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