Alan, thank you so much for sharing your experience. Every couple is unique in how they handle non monogamy. For us, I think we had both handled and dealt with all the old wounds that we both had from prior relationships, so there really wasn’t anything that got stirred up. There is also a confidence in each other that at the end of the day, we will remain a family unit. I think if you are still wanting to pursue non monogamy as a couple, you must keep the communication as honest and real as possible even if it’s uncomfortable (especially if it’s uncomfortable) and keep trying different ways of navigating it until you find one way that works to satisfy both of you. If one party is unsatisfied, they should not be afraid to speak up about it. I just read a really interesting book that addressed a lot of this. You may find in helpful. It is called Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino.