Here’s the Thing About Confidence…

by Michelle Montoro

…It took me a lifetime to learn it…and I really want to share it…

…You have got to fake it until you make it.

For real.

I don’t believe that we are born with confidence.

How could we be? We come into this world shriveled up little helpless dependent beings. Sure, people coo over us and tell us over and over how adorable we are. But as we grow and gain more exposure to the world outside of our protected home environment where we are praised continuously, the harsh reality of competition sets in.

At that first moment of failure or ridicule or just someone being mean…WHAM!…any confidence we may have had is slammed down in one quick punch!

Then we spend our lives trying to rebuild it.

Years of attempting to regain just a tiny bit of confidence to get through the day. And we are knocked down and built up over and over and over again. Many of us are fortunate enough to have friends and family who help to build us up. But many times, we need to be responsible for building our confidence ourselves…

…Alone in our defeat, we need to find ways to build ourselves back up again. And the one sure fire way that I have discovered to do this is to FAKE IT!