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How Pornography Saved My Sex Life
by Michelle Montoro
Low sex drive. Decreased libido. Zero interest in intercourse. Much to my husband’s disappointment, I have been dealing with these issues for quite some time. But what causes it and how do you fix it? At least fix it to the point where both parties in the relationship can reach a satisfactory compromise?
Seriously, I can go months without sex. And that’s not good. It really isn’t. It’s not good for my mental state. It’s not good for my husband’s mental state either. Resulting in a little bit of tension within our marriage around the issue of sex. I don’t want you to be mistaken though. My marriage is very healthy and happy…outside of the bedroom.
I can give you a million reasons why I don’t want to have sex at the end of the day. My husband has heard them all. I’m too tired. I can’t get out of mom mode. There’s too much on my brain to redirect my attention. I’m too tired. I have my period. I have a yeast infection. I’m too tired. I don’t feel well. There are too many other things I need to be doing right now. I feel disgusting. I’m too tired. I’m sure there are more reasons I have used. But you get the idea.
There are lots of statistics out there that explain decreased libido in women. Especially women in midlife. Apparently, it’s not that uncommon of a problem. But regardless of the causes…
