I agree completely with all of this. My husband and I are polyamorous. He has a girlfriend and he is perfectly content with just her and me. I have two boyfriends and three seems to be the perfect number for me. Each one fulfills something that I desire. I have a tremendous amount of love to give and all three relationships are highly romantic and committed. I do not think I could manage more than 3 however. Nor do I want to as I am completely satisfied and happy with things as they are. All 5 people involved in our little love pentagon are new to polyamory and my most recent boyfriend is really learning as we go. He is recently divorced and has never experienced such a thing, but he has been so open and willing to learn about it and he seems to be enjoying the idea very much. While right he now is wholly committed to me, I have been encouraging him to seek at least one more relationship since the distance between us is very far. He is cautiously courting another woman who is married and he was hesitant to tell her about me. When he finally did, she was completely okay with the whole situation (as I suspected she would be as a married woman who has extra marital relationships). And so now here we all are, traveling this fascinating journey through polyamory. We couldn’t be happier. But we do definitely need to fight the good fight in getting outsiders to understand. We must just keep sharing, I guess!