I am currently helping a friend navigate his way to understanding the no rules, no pressure thing as well. Monogamy with lots of rules is so ingrained in us that trying to undo that way of thinking can be tedious and challenging. It was for us as well as in the beginning. But maintaining open and honest communication has been the key. It developed naturally and comfortably but it is still challenging on a bunch of different levels…mostly explaining it to others and facing the judgments. I am so glad that my story is helping you to a better understanding of your situation. If you have any questions, I am more than happy to answer.