Such a great article on working through this issue in your relationship. When my husband and I began our journey into non monogamy, one of our rules was no sleepovers. I was the first to break the rule when he had taken the kids away for a weekend. I felt terribly guilty about it but told him right away that I had done it. We laughed it off and then he had a sleepover when I was away with the children. And now it seems so normal and natural that we share our marital bed with other partners. It began as uncomfortable but eventually worked itself out. I believe it was equally uncomfortable for our outside partners to be sleeping in our marital bed, but they, too, have eventually become comfortable with it. I guess it is just remaining open to all things and communicating about it. And you are right, sometimes you have to deal with discomfort.