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What Polyamory Has Taught Me About Relationship Dynamics
by Michelle Montoro
After living a monogamous lifestyle for the first 7 years of my marriage, I had forgotten how the dynamics in relationships with different people can be so distinctly unique. Each person brings an inimitable set of characteristics to each and every relationship in which they are a participant. This statement applies to all relationships, not just romantic or intimate ones. However, it is the intimate relationships that provide the deeper insight into how much our unique personality traits can establish the entire direction of each relationship.
We are a culture that is obsessed with compatibility predictions whenever we decide to embark on a new relationship. You can find analyses of your compatibilities with another person whether you are dating them, married to them, friends with them, or just merely considering them for any one of those roles in your life.
We consult the stars and astrology charts, we consider personality tests and even genetic components to give us clues to indicate if we are compatible with certain people. We rely on dating websites to find our perfect matches based upon our very own subjective input which can include all sorts of things from educational background, geographic proximity, physical appearance, hobbies, and a whole surfeit of other qualities…
